7 Tips On How To Meditate

Have you ever tried to meditate & felt like you weren’t doing it “correctly” or getting the “results” you were looking for? I know I felt this way when I began meditating some years ago. I found myself frustrated, upset & disappointed because I thought I wasn’t doing it “right”. My mind would go off on a tangent, I would move around a lot to try to get comfortable, and I simply thought shouldn’t I be feeling all zen right now. Well after reading about it, practicing different styles & speaking to others who practice meditating daily, I found 7 things in common that I want to share with you. These 7 tips on how to meditate effectively will definitely have you well on your way to a more balanced & peaceful life. I promise. Now lets get to it!

Tip #1- Consistency. You’ve got to be consistent if you want to see results. And that’s with everything in life. Consistency is key because if you commit to meditating everyday or twice a day, I promise you will see results. Because see it’s not about doing it right when you are new to it, it’s about just making the effort to do it. You could commit to say twice a day, once in the morning before you head out for the day & once before bedtime. The more you do it, you find yourself becoming more peaceful, more balanced, more relaxed & in control.

Tip #2- A Quiet Place. Find a quiet space where it is peaceful. It could be a bedroom, your car, your deck or patio, your bathroom; any place that is quiet for you. A place quiet enough so that you are able to hear. Now you may be saying, “Brown Vegan Goddess just said a place quiet enough so I can hear? Hear what?” You are listening for yourself, your higher self, or God, or Source, or whatever you call your higher power. And that’s the difference between prayer & meditation. In prayer you are talking to God, but in meditation you are listening to God.

Tip #3- Enhancers. Enhancers for meditation include stones, incense, singing bowls, herbs, healing rods, etc. These items do just that…enhance. They can help you get into that zone or space you need to be in to effectively meditate. Various crystals & stones enhance meditation (i.e. quartz & amethyst) just by holding them while you meditate or placing them on your chakras while meditating. Incense cleanse the space & the mind for meditating. Singing bowls help by bringing your frequency where it needs to be for meditation.

Tip #4- Focus/Mindfulness. During meditation you want to focus the mind. Make it still. Be mindful of your mind if that makes sense. You want to clear your mind of all distractions. So I recommend no tv, internet or social media before meditating. Images have a way of sticking, which is why imagination is so powerful. So make sure your mind is clear. If you find yourself drifting into other thoughts, gently acknowledge them by smiling & saying “not at this time…Peace of mind now” & refocus on your breathing.

Tip #5- Breathing. This is probably the most important tip along with consistency. The breath is spirit & you always want to be one with it & focus on it. So as you meditate listen to the breath. Let it guide you into deeper meditation. The breath is what assists the mind, body & spirit into perfect balance. Inhale deeply allowing the belly to expand with each inhalation & exhale completely to where the belly completely deflates. Listen. God is speaking.

Tip #6- No right way. Don’t beat yourself up about not “doing it right”. Truth be told there is no right way. Meditating can be done walking, sitting, laying, or standing. It can be done alone or in groups. It can be done with or without someone guiding you. The main thing is to be consistent, quiet, mindful/focused, & breathing…and it doesn’t hurt to have a few meditation enhancers.

Tip #7- Just Meditate. So simple, so easy. That’s it!


Peace & Balance Always,

Brown Vegan Goddess

How To Cope With Stress

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Top 5 Ways to Stress-Less

With so much going on in our personal lives, in the U.S. & around the globe, you can easily become overwhelmed and stressed out. For me personally, I have seen more than enough police brutality, killing, injustice, ignorance & hate to last a lifetime. I mean I am worn out as black woman in America. If we aren’t God, we damn sure have been carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders since the beginning of time like God.

“And if we are made in his image then call us by our names, most intellects do not believe in God but they fear us just the same.” -Badu

And since we are Goddesses, it is highly beneficial for you to know how to heal yourself & love yourself. So real quick, I want to give you some gems to help you deal with and cope with the stressors of life. These things always help and work for me, and I hope they will work for you too.

  1. Verbalize: This means talking it out to someone who you consider to be wise counsel & that you trust. This can be a friend, sibling, spouse, parent, elder, or professional. It helps to verbalize how you are feeling and what you are feeling to someone because we are connected and we thrive on being in contact with other huemans. Their positive energy will balance out the negative energy of stress that you feel. And be sure to thank them for their time, energy and space they made available to you. It doesn’t hurt to give them a gift of appreciation as well.
  2. Write: Any one who knows me, knows I’m a huge advocate for writing things down. Get you a journal, notebook, piece of paper, whatever; something to write what you are feeling down. The whole point is to get it (stress) out of you.
  3. Get Out/Go In: So getting out is pretty obvious. Get out into Mother Earth. Allow her healing vibrations to balance out the negative energy, because you know it’s not about removing negative or opposite energy. It’s always about balance in EVERYTHING. Go walking on a nature trail. If you live close by a body of water go there. Take off your shoes and walk in the grass or the dirt or sand. Being sure to ¬†breathe deeply in through your nose & out through your mouth gently. If you are into yoga do that outdoors barefoot. It’ll change your life! (I have a few yoga videos on my youtube channel if you would like a great flow for beginners).
  4. Meditate/Pray: This ones self-explanatory. I also wrote about how to meditate a while back. Look through the archives or type it into the search bar to find it.
  5. Affirming Thoughts: This just means think well & be well. Positive, self-affirming thoughts have a major impact on our life because what we think becomes our reality. We have to remind ourselves how strong we are, how deserving of all things good we are, and how powerful beyond measure we are.

Some events in our life will require that we do all 5 of these at the same damn time, more than once! I’ve had to over the past month and a half. The stress of working in healthcare, being a mama and wife, building a brand, traveling, trying to lose weight in my midsection, etc. You can see why knowing how to heal myself & de-stress is crucial. So I hope this helps someone & if it does I wanna hear about it in the comments below!

let us know some ways you de-stress in the comment section below, it might just help someone.

Peace & Balance Always Loves!

Brown Vegan Goddess



WEEK 2 & 3: My Weight Loss Journey

Greetings to all my Gods & Goddesses!

If you follow me on Instagram then you probably have seen photos of me traveling for the past 2 weeks! There was some highlights and some things not worth mentioning or things that I don’t want to re-live, like sitting on a plane for 5 hrs with a smelly baby in front of me the whole time :-/ Or, the spider that decided to crawl up next to me the first night in LA as I’m just beginning to doze off good. Just rude.

Anyway, during my travels I didn’t have a chance to update you guys like I planned to. And to be honest, it’s really not much to update ya’ll on because well…I wasn’t really doing too great on this weight loss journey thing.

I didn’t have a scale to weight myself, nor did I want one. I take that back…I did have a scale in the spa I went to one day while in Vegas. Let’s just say I was disappointed to see the number when I stood on it. Here I am thinking I worked out in the gym yesterday, then I sweated off a couple pounds in the sauna and steam room…I just knooooooow I lost a couple pounds. Nope! Ha!

So, I’m not sure if I should give ya’ll a recap of all the things I ate for the past 2 weeks or not. Just know that everything was plant-based of course, but not the healthiest. I’ll just give you a brief recap of my week in Vegas and then my week in LA.

Week 2 in las vegas


  • Light walk at Red Rock Canyon
  • 1hr workout at the gym that included treadmill, elliptical, various weight machines and leg lifts
  • Walking around the Spring Preserves for an hour in the sweltering heat
  • Sweating at the sauna and steam room for a few hours
  • Walking around downtown LV sightseeing and buying food


  • Mangoes
  • Beignets, Donut, Brownie, Milk Shake, Cookie (I didn’t eat all of these by myself though)
  • Fried tofu & fried seitan, fried rice and fried mushrooms
  • Wraps
  • Mac n Cheeze, cornbread, fried potato wedges
  • Lots of water
  • The only thing healthy that I ate were the mangos, vegetables on the side of meal or in the fried rice.

So this is what I mean by eating plant-based doesn’t mean you are eating healthy. Sweets and fried foods are horrible for your body, vegan or not. And this is why I’m on a weight loss journey, to train myself to make better decisions about what I eat.

Week 3 in california


  • A 15-minute power walk in Beverly Hills because I didn’t want to be late for an appointment.


  • 2 pieces of cake
  • breakfast burrito and pan-fried potatoes
  • Burger and fries
  • Fried rice with tofu
  • Chips
  • Water and hemp milk for drinks
  • Beans and rice with tofu

Once again not making the best choices, but I’m not going to beat myself up about it. Because guess what? There is always to tomorrow, next week and next month to make better choices.

Current weight: I gained 3lbs back based on my scale at home

My plan for the coming weeks is to become consistent, and get back into controlling my portions and cutting out fried foods all together. My doctor in California told me to start drinking up to a gallon of water a day (I definitely don’t drink enough water), eat oatmeal in the morning, salads for lunch, berries for dinner and snack on nuts throughout the day; and watch the pounds fall off. And of course, maintain an active lifestyle of at least 30 minutes-1 hour of activity a day. Remember to take a day of rest so that the muscles can heal and the body can rebuild.

I hope this helps someone out there who is on their weight loss journey too, or thinking about starting their journey.

Peace & Balance Always!

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Go to my Instagram page to see photos of some of my meals and activities that I mentioned here in this post.